Behind many smiling faces are silent battles that the world never sees. Every day, people walk through life carrying emotional pain, trauma and fear while pretending everything is fine. Some remain silent because they are afraid of being judged, while others stay in abusive relationships for the sake of love, their children or the hope that things will one day change.
For Mavis Tom, silence was no longer an option. Having survived both gender-based violence (GBV) and mental illness, she made the courageous decision to transform her pain into purpose. In 2022, she founded Khanya Wellness Organisation, a non-profit organisation dedicated to supporting survivors of GBV and raising awareness about mental health.
"The reason I established Khanya Wellness Organisation is to become a voice for the voiceless," said Mavis. "I have personally experienced both gender-based violence and mental illness. I know the pain that victims go through, and I want to help them heal, encourage them to speak out and remind them that they are not alone."
Mavis says she endured years of abuse in her relationship. "My partner abused me verbally, sexually, financially and spiritually. There were also physical assaults, pushing and intimidation. Eventually, I found the courage to apply for a protection order, but the abuse continued. I finally made the difficult decision to divorce him." She believes many victims remain trapped because of fear.
"People often say, 'I love him,' or 'What about the children?' Those words keep many victims trapped in abusive relationships instead of seeking help." According to her, gender-based violence is not simply a personal issue—it is a social crisis that destroys families and leaves lasting emotional scars. She explains that many people do not recognise the warning signs of mental illness until it becomes overwhelming.
Some of the symptoms she encourages people to watch for include persistent headaches, constant anger, dizziness, loneliness, unexplained crying, irritability, emotional withdrawal, difficulty concentrating and feeling the need to constantly defend oneself. "If you notice these signs in yourself or someone close to you, please seek help. Talk to someone you trust. No one deserves to suffer in silence,” she added.
She also warns that untreated mental health challenges can lead to isolation, bullying and further emotional harm. Through Khanya Wellness Organisation, Tom regularly visits schools to educate learners about GBV, mental health and emotional well-being. She says many young people quietly carry burdens they are too afraid to share. "When I visit schools, I always give learners my contact details because some are still too shy to speak openly in front of others. They need to know there is someone willing to listen."
She believes stronger partnerships between community organisations, social workers, psychologists and government departments are essential to effectively support survivors and improve mental health services. Her message to anyone experiencing abuse is clear and heartfelt. "Speak up. Do not be afraid of what people will say. Your life matters, and there is help available. No one is born to be treated like rubbish. You deserve to live in peace, with dignity and without fear."
As South Africa continues to confront the challenges of gender-based violence and mental health, people like Mavis Tom are proving that one voice can inspire healing, restore hope and save lives. She believes that by standing together, communities can create a safer and more compassionate future. "Let's join hands and make the world a better place."
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Need Help? Anyone seeking support or guidance regarding gender-based violence or mental health is encouraged to contact Mavis Tom at Khanya Wellness Organisation. 📞 Call or WhatsApp: 078 911 7663